The Hug Doctor – Blog Part 1
“The hugging and oxytocin release that comes with it can then have trickle-down effects throughout the body, causing a decrease in heart rate and a drop in the stress hormones cortisol and norepinephrine.”
I consult at various agencies and when I went to work yesterday I learned tragically that a 17y/o boy died unexpectedly and suddenly with no medical history. He was a completely healthy young man. A teenager who was respected by his peers and very likable by all accounts. He had just played an amazing first half in a competitive organized basketball game. His teammates were shocked, devastated, angry and very confused to lose him so suddenly. I reflect on his loss because, as you all know, tomorrow is not promised to any of us.
Yet we often live like it is.
So think hard and be radically transparent with yourself what do you want to do or can you choose to do today in this moment? Do you have something to clean up with a family member that you have been intending to do and know you will do (one day) and yet keep putting it off?
Take action NOW! Not with the sobering weight of what if someone dies. With the existential and freedom that we are constantly CREATING our life.
THE HUG is an extremely powerful lens through which to see the world and gives access to powerfully taking action.
Similar to taking a magnifying glass and using it to harness the suns energy to fry 🐜s. Yes, I said ants.
For the record destroying ants is not the space of a hug (poor ants) and I admit it is something that I did as a small child growing up in Gillette, WY.
The point is that harnessing that energy is the equivalent of a laser. Once harnessed that force can fry ants, shoulds, doubts, or the needless self-criticism of experiencing life as a victim.
Hugging brings us into the present, and into a state of love rather than fear. For survival purposes consider that our default with everything is fear based on safety. Or perceived safety. The hugging practice frees us to be more loving and courageous in all areas of life.
And that’s the focus and clarity each and everyone of us can have access to TODAY in this moment. Take full responsibility for everything and then take action. Imperfect action will win out over no action.
Consider that regardless of what you accomplish – who you know yourself to be will be transformed. It’s critical. One of the keys to the kingdom. Who we know ourselves to be in this moment. Let’s look deeper into the hug.
If you go for that jog you have been putting off for days or weeks this morning or right now instead of just thinking about it and watching another episode of Netflix it will impact your whole day. It’s a self hug and so much more.
If you call that friend you’ve been missing for over a year and leave a heartfelt message it sets into action a powerful chain of events. A hug for your friend and so much more.
Regardless of the overt outcome of the action due to taking the action you can choose to know yourself as a leader, not someone who is avoiding or failing.
That’s what this blog is. It’s the connection in this moment that really matters. A HUGe hug, if you will, embracing everything.
One woman who is currently on the 21 day hugging journey read a draft of this blog and reported it inspired her to take action. One potent example of the power of hugging. In that, you can’t give a hug without getting one. The blog inspired her to take action on something deeply meaningful to her and her action inspired and impacted this blog deepening the resolve to powerfully connect with others.
This is about uniting and becoming increasingly impactful and using the hugging laser to eliminate self doubt, emboldening us to take on and destroy the pain and inequity in the world – one hug at a time. Each of us speaking to the world about the power of hugging and the profound impacts. We are just getting warmed up.
That’s one of the potent things about 21 day hugging journeys. The journey is tailored to the individual and can’t help having a profound impact.
Dropping a hug in a pond and watching the ripples that continue to extend out slowly and surely in a beautiful rhythm and pattern.
Spread the love.🤗
Another piece of imperfect action engaged in yesterday was a first Wiki entry to share about the health benefits of hugging. Check it out here under health benefits and see the link at the top of today’s blog.
What action will you take today? This is the part in the story 📚 where we are often reading and we decide not to do the exercise right now because we don’t think we need it, or we tell ourselves we will do it later, or we half-ass it in our head. The result is we fail to create meaningful movement in our life today.
Do this NOW.
You may consider it a big step or a small one. Commit to an action in this moment and concretely create a space for it today. Do it now or commit with certainty about when you will take action in the future.
Phone call to a friend, exercise, massage, physical hug, virtual hug. Give yourself the freedom and joy to surprise and delight yourself. You and your family and friends will thank you for being fully alive.
The reality is and not just something motivational to blog about – you don’t know when or if you will ever have a chance to hug yourself or them again. Start metaphorically and literally hugging today. Then let us know about your experience. Use your inspiration and action to inspire others.
We would love your feedback at Hugging Central💛
Big biggest hugs always,
The Hug Doctor is IN for peace of mind and world peace. 💛