I consult at various agencies and when I went to work yesterday I learned tragically that a 17y/o boy died suddenly and unexpectedly with no medical history. He was a completely healthy young man. A teenager who was respected by his peers and very likable by all accounts. He had just played an amazing first half in a competitive organized basketball game. His teammates were shocked, devastated, angry and very confused to lose him so suddenly. I reflect on his loss because, as you all know, tomorrow is not promised to any of us.
Yet we often live like it is.
So think hard, be radically transparent with yourself, what do you want to do or can you choose to do today in this moment? Do you have something to clean up with a family member that you have been intending to do and know you will do (one day) and yet keep putting it off?
Take action NOW! Not with the sobering weight of what if someone dies – with the existential awareness and freedom that we are constantly CREATING our life.
THE HUG is an extremely powerful lens through which to see the world and gives access to powerfully taking action.
Similar to taking a magnifying glass and using it to harness the suns energy to fry ants. Yes, I said ants.
For the record destroying ants is not the space of a hug (poor ants) and I admit it is something that I did as a small child growing up.
The point is that harnessing that energy is the equivalent of a laser. Once harnessed that force can fry ants, shoulds, doubts, or the needless self-criticism of experiencing life as a victim.
Hugging brings us into the present, and into a state of love rather than fear. For survival purposes consider that our default with everything is fear based on safety. Or perceived safety. The hugging practice frees us to be more loving and courageous in all areas of life.
And that’s the focus and clarity each and everyone of us can have access to TODAY. Right now. Take full responsibility for everything and then take action. Imperfect action will win out over no action.
Consider that regardless of what you accomplish – who you know yourself to be will be transformed. It’s critical. Who we know ourselves to be in this moment. Let’s look deeper into the hug.
If you go for that jog you have been putting off for days or weeks this morning or right now instead of just thinking about it and watching another episode of Netflix it will impact your whole day. It’s a self hug and so much more.
If you call that friend you’ve been missing for over a year and leave a heartfelt message it sets into action a powerful chain of events. A hug for your friend and so much more.
Regardless of the overt outcome of the action due to taking the action you can choose to know yourself as a leader, not someone who is avoiding or failing.
That’s what this blog is. It’s the connection in this moment that really matters. A HUGe hug, embracing everything.
Big biggest hugs always,
The Hug Doctor is IN for peace of mind and world peace.